Last Saturday, I was lucky enough to marry the love of my life and my best friend. Okay, so I sound like all those women on “Say Yes to The Dress” and mine would have had to be the Atlanta division because of my thick Southern drawl. But, I can’t help myself. I have a heart filled with joy, and a wedding cake that was decorated with magnolia and dogwood blossoms made of fondant. Now, I am back from my honeymoon, and I think it is important that I share some of my “been there, done that” wisdom. So, what are some major do’s and don’ts when it comes to planning your second wedding?
• Do not wear white. My son asked me if I was wearing a white wedding dress, and since he was giving me away and my daughter was my maid of honor, I figure the jig was up as far as my purity. So, I wore champagne, and it was beautiful.
• Do make it a family affair. I am blessed with two precious children. (19 and 20) My new husband has two girls. (18 and 25) They were our wedding party. Let’s be honest- what forty-something wants to be a bridesmaid anyway? Gray hair and bridesmaid dresses don’t mix.
• Do not ask guests to bring gifts. This is a personal opinion, but I think it is a little tacky to ask people to bring gifts to a second wedding. What does one buy someone who has a house filled with lots of stuff? On my RSVP cards, I simply stated that my groom and I have been blessed and the gift of their presence was all that we asked.
• Do make it a special occasion for all guests. This wedding was more of a joyous celebration for me and mine. I wanted my guest to feel extra special and take part. After our vows, the congregation stood and sang a hymn. Not only did it get my guest involved in the service, it also was beautiful and most definitely a” joyful noise.”
• Do not speak softly during your vows. Not many of us enjoy silent movies. Heck, I don’t even like movies with subtitles. Make sure you speak loudly enough for your guest to hear you. Your vows are declarations, and they should be heard.
• Do Enjoy Yourself. I must admit that I remember little of my first wedding. My mom made all the decisions. She picked everything out. This time I planned and implemented most everything about my wedding. It was a reflection of my groom and me. People said it was one of the happiest weddings they have ever been to. That makes me smile, so – mission accomplished! Okay, this is my advice on second weddings. The most important thing to do is have a blast like only Southern folks can.